Supporting a child who talks very loudly

Supporting a child who talks very loudly

I need this if:

My child or student speaks very loudly or can’t control their volume in places such as the bus, in the shop, in the library or in the classroom.

This can help if:
My child or student has autism and they are aged 5 years or over.
Why is this useful:
Children and young people with autism often do not know which volume to use in which setting.
Suggestion for how to use this:
Tell your child or student that we use different volumes in different places. Show them the voice volume scale and discuss with them what volume they can use in a context that is particular to your family or class. For example, in the library you can tell them that their volume should be at number 2.
How to access this resource:

 This is taken from the Incredible 5-point Scale which you can buy. There are also a number of free downloadables, including a blank 5-point Scale template: https://www.5pointscale.com/downloadables.html

This YouTube video also shows us other ways to use the 5-point Scale: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AuPjB9kMNwY

PDF Infograhic : https://www.sycamorepsychology.ie/wp-content/uploads/2022/05/Top-Tip-Supporting-a-child-who-talks-very-loudly.pdf

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How does emotional literacy develop in our children?

How does emotional literacy develop in our children?

  • Firstly, Children’s own needs have to be met before they can meet other’s needs
  • Children must have positive, nurturing relationships with the important people in their lives. Challenging relationships can cause stress for children and toxic stress can cause great challenges for children to understand and manage their own emotions.
  • Emotional understanding is an innate maturation process that is fostered within a social setting such as helping children to recognise the physiological component of the emotion (what is happening in their bodies) while labelling their emotions for them.
  • Play allows children to experience and express different emotions, and to externalise the internalised. Encourage play in all its forms.
  • Children need to be able to discuss any issues that arise that they are scared or unsure about. Creating space for communication is KEY so they feel heard, that they don’t have to carry the emotion alone, and that they trust they will be listened to if they open up.
  • When they see emotional literate adults around them who are identifying, using and managing their own emotions in a healthy way.
  • Give children the language to express themselves through modelling use of it, introducing words around emotion in story books and specific books that address emotions (see blog on therapeutic stories) and discussing emotions at home.
  • Children should be encouraged to express all emotions, they should not be sheltered from what you perceive as “not good”, even anger. Anger is an important emotion, however how it is expressed is important, there are healthy ways to express anger and unhealthy ways-help children see the difference between the two. Emotions can be seen as messengers, telling us something.
  • Remember: understanding and respecting children’s emotions is not a softly softly approach- it is giving them the chance to understand the totality of their experience.
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Emotional Literacy

Emotional Literacy

Emotional literacy (often referred to as emotional intelligence) refers to the ability to read emotions in ourselves and in others. We put huge emphasis on teaching our children to be able to read words on a page, however teaching them to be able to read their own and others’ emotions is arguably as important,  if not more.

Those who are emotionally intelligent are able to understand themselves and if they have an issue with something and consequently be more aware of how to work through this. They tend to be aware of their intentions and their responses to situations. There are also competent and understanding others feelings and be able to manage relationships well.

The specific skills that somebody who is emotionally literate has include the ability to identify emotions, understand them, use them and manage them.

Someone who can identify emotions is aware of what part of their body an emotion sits in. For example, some people feel butterflies in their stomach if they are nervous where others feel their hands turn sweaty. When some people are excited they get tingles in their fingers and when others get excited it fills their whole body.
Knowledge of words for emotions, including simple and complex emotion terms, and the ways in which emotions

– Combine such as anger and disgust form contempt

– Progress such as annoyance changing into anger and then into rage

– Transition from one to another

– Ambiguity such as feeling annoyance and love at the same time

Understanding also relates to the ability to analyze emotions and their causes and the ability to predict how people will feel and react in different situations.

This skill answers such questions as:

Why am I feeling anxious

If I say this to my friend, how will he feel;

What will happen if I say that to her?

This refers to knowledge about what we feel influences how we think and knowing which moods are best for different situations or getting yourself in the right mood so to speak.
The most evolved skill related to management of emotions. Once we can monitor emotions, discriminate between different emotions, and label them accurately we then can move onto using this information to improve or otherwise modify these feelings: to employ strategies that will alter our own and others feelings and to assess the effectiveness of these strategies.
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